Should you assume someone who is “nice” has higher Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to understand and manage your own emotions, as well as those of the people around you. It is an important characteristic in the business world – research shows that those with high EI have higher earning potential and are respected leaders. But how is it measured? Sometimes people think that it’s measured by how nice a person is.
Let’s think about this a moment. Have you ever felt a little uncomfortable around someone who just seems too nice? Do some of that person’s excessive compliments feel a little too shallow? Well, science supports your feelings. In fact, one study found that those who are extremely nice to their peers are more likely to stab them in the back than their less polite counterparts. That doesn’t sound very emotionally intelligent.
EI is not a means to manipulate people. It is about being self-aware, having self-control, and expressing emotions while also acting in a judicial and empathetic way towards others. These are the characteristics that are measured. EQ is a measure of one’s EI, often as represented by a score in a standardized test. It’s not an assessment of how “nice” a person is. It’s possible for an overly nice person to score very low on the EQ scale.
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